Maid of Honour: How to choose and what to do

Every bride-to-be needs a maid of honour to help her out during her special day. But if you have more than one sister and/or best friend, then it might be very difficult to pick one person over another.

bride jumps for joy with maid of honour

We understand that, which is why we think these tips will help you out:

Tip #1: Your maid of honour needs to be someone who has stood by you through thick or thin, and someone who has always supported you even if she thought you weren’t making the right choices. She’s earned her stripes; and it’s only fair that she now gets to be your maid of honour!

Tip #2: Can she actually give you the help you need on your wedding day and in the run up to it? This is a very important question to ask yourself, because, ultimately, the maid of honour will have a lot of responsibility and she needs to deliver on time.

Tip #3: After you’ve chosen, if you think your other friend or family member might get upset, then why not take them out to lunch and explain the situation? They may not be happy, but they’ll appreciate your honesty. You could always appoint them as bridesmaid, or give them another role – such as to plan your bridal shower, or to read at your ceremony.

bride and maid of honour

So, you’ve been chosen as a maid of honour. How exciting! But what do you do now?

Tip #1: The main role of the maid of honour is to help the bride-to-be. This can be in anything – from picking the perfect dress to taking care of mishaps on the actual day. One of the best ways to be ready for any eventuality is by doing some research!

Tip #2: Another important part of the maid of honour’s role is to organise a bridal shower and the hen do. Remember that it’s okay to ask friends and family for help in the situation; and while it’s your job to get them done, it’s fine to ask the bride-to-be for her opinion.

Tip #3: A lot of unplanned and unexpected things happen on the actual day! Whatever you do, make sure you have the following at hand: tissues (lots of them); a needle and thread (in the colours of the bride’s dress and groom’s tuxedo); the bride’s lipstick; mints; the contact details of everyone in the wedding party; and hairspray.


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